Are You A “Hater” Or A “Thought Leader”?


Giving free press for bad behavior in never advised! It is the equivalent of giving a kid candy after refusing to eat their vegetables at dinner. But in this case-the spotlight is warranted. Please read here: http://jalopnik.com/5137683/scott-monty-ford-social-media-expert-a-bit-of-a-twit#c10740802 and read my comment & replies:

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I don’t want to get into the logistics of the debate. Instead I would like to focus on the tone of the blog post and the tone by which the commenter’s/followers have chosen to interact after my comment. Outside of the folks who backed Scott Monty, there seemed to be a very negative overtone, not only from the blogger, but the followers as well. Even the skull for an avatar implies negativity.

The Sportguy wrote in ESPN The Magazine: “The hater gimmick sprung from the Internet, where bloggers and message-board posters rip people to shreds on a daily basis. It’s a logical tactic. If you want to cause a splash, but you’re not talented or funny and lack an interesting take, what’s left? You attack.” I found it interesting this comment came to head at the same time I was dealing with a blogger community that fell into the “hater gimmick” category. It would appear “hater” blogs are a bit of a no win situation for anyone

So the question begs to be answered. Do you want your Social Media presence to be “hater gimmick”; or an entity of fresh perspective and organic learning? My choice is the latter. But I would be remiss if I did not take the spotlight off the negative and shine it squarely on the lesson to be learned. Pick a positive tone for your online niche. The tone you choose will in turn result in comments that match the way you choose to interact with the world. If you choose negative, you are going to draw in negativity. If you choose educational and open-you might learn from your peers and likewise for the readers from you. Much like life-if you surround yourself with negative folks-that is what you get back. If you surround yourself with happy people-you too will be happy.

The negative follower is going to call me out and say “…well the hater gimmick worked, you linked the blog.” While the positive follower is going to take the small lesson and learn from it. I am going to take my chances and say most of you are going to take the good from this post and apply it. Peer learning is one of the many benefits of Social Media if executed correctly!

I will be doing my first podcast this week. My apologies for being unavailable last week. I was traveling and then came down with the plague. I will be doing my first podcast in the coming days.  Make it a great week….


4 responses to “Are You A “Hater” Or A “Thought Leader”?

  • Brian Harris

    Haters will not only have their own dismal outlook hanging over their heads, karma will eventually kick them in the lower chakras.

    ESPN has (or at least HAD) a troll army of haters. These guys were serious bashers who would do anything and everything to insult users, disrupt community flow and ultimately make asses of themselves in an effort to bring down the site. But their best work; days…sometimes weeks of planning and effort, were never more than an hour or two of clean-up on aisle six for “the good guys.”

    My point is that all that negative energy, even well-organized and executed never amounted to a fraction of the healthy positive energy found in the community. Haters and detractors are the online equivalent of soccer hooligans. If only they could be tagged and identified outside of the virtual environment, I am convinced they could be seen for their many other social inequities and we could pity them all the more.

    It’s a shame that negativism needs such an outlet. I am not following your link to the hater blog–I’ve seen enough of that sort of thing to last a lifetime–but I believe you are right to shine the light into their sad, tiny pit of despair and let the good folks see them scurry around like roaches.

    Thank you Derek!

  • delicia Lewis

    Well, Scott Monty has a job, and he seems to be good at the computer aspects the tech in him seems to be what Ford was looking for. He looks nice, and sweet, like the guy next door.
    I forgive you Scott for blocking me on Twitter I know the devil made you do it. Be careful you could loose your soul. Take that piece of advise from a woman who trusted Ford with her son’s life and lost.

  • Mark Wallace

    Derek:

    Great post today. Some people are positive, some are not. Some people take joy in attacking others. Some like to help others. Some wake up every morning and make it a great day. Some wake up every morning and think today is going to suck too. Some participate in healthy debates. Some just start debates.

    In the end, Karma does catch up with you.

  • Matt R.

    It’s funny that you bring this topic up. I recently dealt with the ever-growing legion of haters last week. My cousin and his wife were profiled in a Boston.com article about a young couple’s struggles with the current economy and their decision to try to start a family. They didn’t agree to be the subject of the article to gain sympathy, they were asked to tell their story as an example of some of the issues that young people are struggling with today. Unfortunately, most of the comments were negative and it turned into this contest where people were trying to outdo each other’s sob stories. Those individuals completely missed the point of the article. It even became personal as one person made fun of my cousin’s wife for being overweight. It just goes to prove that in this day and age people are more confident about hating on others when they can do it anonymously from the comfort of the world wide web.

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